How To Get My Husband To Listen To Me?

by Jenn

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Come on ladies, I’m sure there has been a time in most of our lives when we wanted to know “How to get my husband to listen to me.”  Let’s face it, men say we are difficult.  They are just as difficult as we are.  Therefor, in my opinion it’s not one certain gender that is more difficult to communicate with, it’s that we are both different and there are things we both need to do so we’re able to keep the important lines of communication open.

There are some things we as women can do to help improve communication with the men we love, but this has to be something you want to do.  First off we already know guys and gals think differently, we do from the time we are little kids.  The only thing that happens is the gals grow up, and the men don’t lol.  Okay, not really they do grow up, I couldn’t help myself.   Do you really think a man is ever gong to learn to communicate in our language if we don’t change it up a little.  Now, I’m not saying a total makeover, just a few little tweaks to help the men in our lives understand us.

So what are some things us ladies can do to help our husbands or boyfriends understand us better?

No more hinting

Oh come on admit it, you’ve done it.  You might even still be guilty of doing it that’s okay it’s time to change that.  Other women might understand you’re hints, but it’s very unlikely the man in your life is going to understand something like this:

“WOW, I had a long day today.  I’m so sleepy and cannot wait to go to bed.  I’m not sure what we’re going to have for dinner.”  YOU CANNOT get upset if they don’t offer to bring dinner home, or make something for you.  Stop hinting and say it.

“Babe I’m so sleepy, my day was really long.  Is there anyway you can pick something up for dinner.”  There you have it, any good guy will bring dinner home to his lovely lady.  I know my husband does, I did the hinting too not to worry.  I know it doesn’t work.

Don’t treat him like he is a child

I don’t this all of us do this, but there’s some that do.  I’m sure you have seen it with your own eyes.  Let’s face it your husband or boyfriend has a mom, he doesn’t need another one.  Don’t tell them what they can and cannot do.  If you don’t want them to do anything simply ask them and respect their decision.  If they’re doing something that hurts you, or you don’t trust them maybe you need to take a long look at your relationship

Change for the better

Change you’re life to live like you’re in a relationship   You now have a partner, an equal  someone to make decisions with.  Treat this person as you want to be treated.  Most men live to please their wifes, if they see you walking in the right direction if things are supposed to be they will follow.

Don’t nag them to pieces

Nobody wants to be nagged to death.  Would you like it if you’re husband followed you around nagging about everything you did?  It will not change anything, and even if you do get your husband to do what you want by nagging it’s not likely he will stick around for it for too long.  It wont take long before they f

Rather than wasting your time waiting for you husband to change, take the first step.  If you love them, and they are special to you, than they’re worth it.  What’s the worst that can happen?  I doubt trying will make things worse than they were when you started, at least you will know you gave it your best shot.

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md kennedy March 20, 2013 - 10:05 am
I agree with your first point - just come out and say it already! Husbands (most anyway) are not great at picking up signals, but if you just ask you'd be surprised at the response. Took me a while to learn that.
sam dock March 20, 2013 - 10:30 am
My husband and I have the issue of me treating him like a child sometimes...and he admits to acting like one when he gets frustrated lol. It is something we constantly work at.
Ruth Reynolds March 20, 2013 - 11:55 pm
I wish i could get my hubby to listen to me he dont understand me or my couponing (its my only outlet) He thinks that he makes the money that he dictates everthing i hope we can use these to hep thanks
Anita L March 21, 2013 - 6:42 am
I certainly got a good laugh here and I have to admit, I have been guilty of "hinting" :) It's more than obvious that men just don't get it, so I have to agree with you there. I wonder why we do this? I'm quite fortunate though to have great communication overall with my hubby. I've been with some that drive me nuts!!
Jenn March 21, 2013 - 1:18 pm
Jaime Nicole March 21, 2013 - 12:02 pm
Nagging is such a pain when it comes from either party. I try to talk to my partner like I want to be talked to.
michelleelizondo March 21, 2013 - 1:14 pm
I hope it gets better for these women
Amanda March 22, 2013 - 3:09 pm
Hope all improves....I know when I went away for a co-op that it strained the communication in my relationship temporarily but now better than ever
lisa March 22, 2013 - 6:37 pm
I don't nag,because he doesn't really listen I have to repeat myself.He hears half of what is said and fills in the blanks.I don't hint either. Why, if he isn't listening? It's hard not to treat someone like a child when they act like one. Anyways I love my husband so I usually overlook these things.
Lianne March 22, 2013 - 7:29 pm
I just have to snag my hubby when I know he's not really into something else. I can tell when he's just "uh-huh"ing me and not actually paying attention, and it's usually when he's absorbed in his computer screen!
Peggy Greco March 23, 2013 - 12:23 am
thanks for sharing these good insights regarding an age old situation, lol!
Tracy League March 23, 2013 - 2:22 pm
LOL. I have been married for 21 years and hints don't work and neither does nagging. I have come to the conclusion that sometimes it is just easier to what has to be done myself. When I buy myself flowers, it usually gets the point across very clearly.
Liza March 23, 2013 - 2:54 pm
this applies to all people...not just husbands or men
Maria Iemma March 23, 2013 - 3:59 pm
I always tried not to nag at my husband, he provided well for us and came home tired from work and the last thing he wanted was a nagging wife telling him what he should do or giving him a list of problems that happened that day. I used to wait until dinner was on the table and he had started to relax before starting any conversation.
lisa March 24, 2013 - 6:22 pm
Will men and women ever truly understand each other?
Elaina Wright May 28, 2013 - 11:43 pm
I think we all fall into these problems from time to time and need to be reminded every now and then to back off or its gonna make things so much worse
Beanybopp September 9, 2013 - 7:54 am
I tend to nag more when I'm really frustrated with something...I have learned that I just have to sit down with him (with NO distractions for him) and TALK! And hints have never worked unless you hint to the point where it is completely obvious (like what engagement ring I wanted...what he was pointing out where hideous) lol
Shannon January 30, 2014 - 5:59 am
I agree with you on most everything and I have tried to stop nagging him...but when I have asked him to do something and it is hours or even days later...You're killin' me smalls!
Michele Ash June 15, 2015 - 2:17 am
Thanks for the Fantastic Review on How To Get My Husband To Listen To Me? I know all too well all the things you mentioned in your review! I've learned that If I want or need something done, I have to come right out and ask him to please do it! I try not to nag at him because that just gets him mad and nothing gets done! When it comes to certain holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. I tried the hinting and it never worked! I sat down with him one day and point blank told him how I feel when I do not get anything for the holidays, birthdays and our anniversary. I told him that I get hurt because I feel that he does this on purpose to see if I'll say anything! Before our financial situation, he was really being good at remember to purchase a little something for all the above! Thanks so much for sharing your fantastic review and all of your personal and professional opinions on How To Get My Husband To Listen To Me with all of us! I really enjoyed the read! Thanks again! Michele :)

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